People who have successful jobs and beautiful families and careers are deep down, not truly happy. I mean, I guess we, they, are happy but it is more contentment than anything. Many people I have spoken with have a life of "I should have," or "If only" I had done this or that.
So often, people I know just went with what they thought they should do as the next step, according to society's standards, myself included.
It has lead me to my conclusion that the ultimate goal in life is that internal search for happiness. No matter who you are or where you live or what you believe in, you just want to be happy.
The million dollar question is: "What is it that really makes us happy?" We spend our whole lives trying to figure that out. We are taught from the moment we are young that growing up and being successful, getting married and having children is the way to go. Never along the way is emotional well-being ever a priority. By that I mean, no one ever really taught us to be happy with ourselves first to find out what makes us truly tick. No one really teaches to to find out what is that goal that will make us happy from within?
Instead, we are taught to go to school, to go to college, to get the best job possible to work 9 to 5, to get married, to have kids and that this is the WAY to go. Of course, education is important but it doesn't always have to be the only option.
We live our lives where we are always dreading Mondays and looking forward to taking time off. A great majority of society lives for vacations to escape their "reality." Why are we not genuinely happy with what we are doing? I mean, I'm sure there are those who are genuinely happy. I know during my time in the music business I was extremely happy and fulfilled with what I was doing,,, but again it was because I was doing what truly made ME happy.
Then that biological clock starts ticking and we start looking around and seeing that we are not where we are "suppose to be yet." At least not in the place we have been indoctrinated with: married, kids, big house etc.. For some reason, this equals success to society.
Why do we not teach our youth today that they have the power within them to make themselves happy? We do not need to go looking for another human being to feel that sense of satisfaction? Sure, it is wonderful to spend your life with somebody and share the joys but I believe our society has it all backwards.
We are taught that we must find someone to be happy and then we must have kids to be an even happier. That cycle never seems to end. Then we get to mid life and wonder what we've done with our lives.
I believe that from the time our children are young we should teach them to express their feelings. We think it's okay that little girls write in their diaries and that it's OK for them to cry but how about the boys? Do they get to write in their diaries and express their feelings? I am sure there are some who do and this is wonderful, but generally speaking, it is not the way we are all brought up.
Ultimately, I believe that life's goal should be to be truly happy with ourselves and when we find that happiness we should share it and make a positive difference in the world. Of course, we have obligations as we reach adulthood, but I think life would be a whole lot easier if we learned to do the things that make us (emotionally) happy from the time we were young and continue to do so all throughout our teen years and well into adulthood. And by that I mean, not conforming to society standards, continuously having to live by the rules of what make others happy for us.
For example, that girls only get to play with dolls and that boys only get to play with trucks and that when you reach a certain age in adulthood you should get married. Obviously, we have come a very long way with those things I just mentioned, but the biggest factor still remains, learning that we need to love ourselves first and be happy with ourselves before we can make anyone else happy. And most importantly, when we finally do find that person to share our lives with and we begin a family, we should not give up all the things we love to do, the things that make us happy as individuals.
I believe we should learn to express our feelings and follow our passion and do what makes us genuinely happy. We all have that power within us. The key is, learning to access that power. We need to learn to genuinely be ourselves and express our feelings without the fear of criticism from society. And if we have kids, we need to raise them to be respectful, compassionate and empathetic human beings, but most importantly. teach them that happiness is a vital component in life. We need to let them know and others, that it is okay to be who you are, not what society wants us to be.
We ALL have the power to be happy! Get inspired!
We ALL have the power to be happy! Get inspired!